Whenever I go through a challenging season in my life, I find that writing makes my circumstances a lot easier to deal with. The release I experience when writing is in-explainable. Allow me to take you through the process; after writing down my thoughts, I sift through the words, and then I prepare myself mentally and emotionally for the challenge I’m facing. I use my personal experiences to come here and write advice for others. I never know who my words will resonate with when posting, albeit I write them anyway. Honestly, I love receiving messages from friends and readers thanking me for my inspirational write-ups.
In this past week I turned to a friend for comfort during a heart-shattering moment in my life (cringe, I can be so dramatic). I didn’t need advice, or empathy, I merely needed reassurance that I was going to come out of this “situation” stronger than before. My friend’s response that night, not only gave me the affirmation I needed, but has also been my driving force to continue to push forward in all aspects of my life. I promise you, the last thing I wanted to do was get up out of bed, face the world, write content for my blog, go to work, do a photo shoot, meet new people, etc. The fact of the matter is, I had no choice. I had to pull myself towards myself. Life doesn’t just stop because I feel sad; opportunities don’t float around waiting for me to have a better day. Living consumed in your emotions will result in you missing all the beautiful things life has to offer.
I needed to make a decision that night. Am I going to allow this “situation” to hinder me, or am I going to accept it and move on. I chose the latter. I think it has a lot to do with my constant fear of being controlled by others. The mere fact that someone else’s words and or actions can control the way a person feels is very daunting for me. I refuse to fall victim to this… So you got offended today, reality check, the world doesn’t care. While you’re sitting at home, on your couch, consuming an entire bag of Doritos, the rest of the world is out there seizing opportunities, opportunities you’re missing out on, all because you got offended today.
I’m not completely heartless; I understand people need time to heal. We can’t all be wonder woman, were only human and yes we let our emotions get the better of us. Nevertheless, we should respect ourselves more by not allowing the actions or words of others to halt our progress or our lives for that matter. At the end of the day, it all falls on you, how you allow others to make you feel. If you don’t allow it, then “it“ can do you no harm. It’s actually pretty simply really, if something or someone brings absolutely no purpose to your life, move on. Yeah, it will be hard, but you’re so much stronger then you give yourself credit for. You’re a queen, so start acting like one.
I’ll leave you with the message I received from my friend that night.
“You’re one of the most resilient people I’ve come across, so I know you’ll be fine. I’m here for you, and things will get better.
1. (of a person or animal) able to withstand or recover quickly from difficult conditions.
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