I always believe that people come into our lives for a reason and a season. Sometimes, in fact, most times these “people” are not meant to stay. They are merely there to teach you something. Whether that be about yourself or about a situation, there is always a lesson to gain from losing someone who was never meant to stay.
For the ones that stay. They stay because your life needs them to stay. They are able to grow with you and bring a huge benefit to your life. These people are rare, it’s usually only a handful of people like that in our lives and we need to cherish them.
I am such a softy at heart, I always like to give people the benefit of the doubt. My problem is when “these people” are in the process of leaving my life I still try to hold on. I defend their actions and make excuses for them, all in order to make myself feel better. No one wants to admit that their time is up in some one’s life. So you can imagine how difficult it is to comprehend that they are willing to leave.
Its only after the dust has settled and years have passed do you realise why these people had to leave, and then it all makes sense and you smile and say thank you. It’s not necessarily because these people did you wrong, it’s just that they couldn’t go where you were heading. And only once you reach where you were heading, do you understand the process and the reasons.
I have lost many friends and lovers along the way, but I still cheer them on from a distance. Just because they couldn’t stay doesn’t mean you shouldn’t love and support them from a distance.
My plea to you is to STOP watering dead plants. Focus your life on the people who help you grow, for the things in life that make YOU happy (not someone else BUT YOU) and for the moments in life that take your breath away. A very near and dear friend gave me this advice, and I love her for being the mirror I often need. A friend who always sees the light in me even when I don’t.
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