I live my life in somewhat of a way by lyrics from my favourite rappers. One of them being – “You know it’s real when you are who you think you are” – by Drake. I would much rather listen to rap music than any other genre. (Maybe something you didn’t know about me) I loved this specific lyric of Drakes as it pretty much sums up my state of mind right now. I want to chat about the battles I have been fighting lately. In the past month or so, I have had many doors slammed shut in my face, and that can be very discouraging especially when these doors are the very doors being knocked on to further my goals and career.
It’s so easy to get discouraged from your goals when you’re constantly being told NO. I don’t want that to happen to you or anyone else for that matter which is why I wanted to write this post. I don’t have a huge “fan” base compared to other bloggers, but I still continue to write whether for one reader or for a thousand readers. I write not only because I enjoy writing, but because I believe I should give my one reader the same passion as I would for one thousand readers. I started my blog to create a platform in which to showcase and grow my style. I love getting feedback from my readers regarding a certain outfit I wore, I feel that is the best reassurance that any start-up blogger can get. Relating and creating a relationship with your readers is so important and will only help you flourish as a blogger. Other than wanting to share my style I also wanted to write, I’ve always wanted to write and that’s the exact direction I am climbing. You see I didn’t start a blog to be (for lack of a better word) “Famous” I started my blog so that I could practise my writing and so that I could dig deeper within myself as a writer. All the BEST writers had to start off somewhere and I decided to incorporate fashion into the mix as an added bonus of course.
Getting back to the point of my blog post – The road to success is never easy nor straight, there’s many curves, bumps, and potholes that will get in your way. You absolutely can not let these “things” distract you from achieving your goals, dreams, and aspirations. Don’t allow it. I was recently asked in an interview “Where do you see yourself in 5 years” perhaps for this particular position I was applying for, my answer did not apply. However, I couldn’t sit there and lie. I wholeheartedly responded and said “I see myself as a fashion journalist” This in retrospect is exactly where I see myself. I would love to be writing for the likes of Elle Magazine or Marie Claire, reporting on high fashion, interviewing fashion’s most elite and discovering the stories behind the story. Every day I am reaching for my goal, every decision I make has an impact on my goals, every move I make can help aid me positively in achieving my goals. You see if you truly want something, it has to start becoming a part of your everyday life. You need to eat, sleep and breath your goals. My journey has not been easy, but then again when is it ever easy? I have had half of my big toe in the doorway, only to have the door slammed shut in my face. I have sacrificed sleep to write up an amazing piece only to be told I didn’t make the cut. I have been shut down before having the chance to speak, I have been promised exposure and been let down. I have been through my fair share of NO’s on my journey to success but I simply refuse to let it hinder my accomplishments.
YES, I have had my cry, I have had my weak moments when I felt like throwing in the towel, I have cursed, screamed and ate myself into a pity coma. But none the less I have gotten back up and started again. I refuse to let the system break me down. There is an old African proverb that I love – “If you fall down, make sure to fall on your back, because if you can look up you can get up” I have heard this proverb in many motivational youtube videos and it has stuck with me ever since.
How does one stay positive in times of struggle and despair?
Surround yourself with like-minded, positive people. If you stay around sheep you will only end up following and never leading one day. Make sure you have and KNOW who is your support system. The ones you can turn to in times of need and the ones you can turn to in times on triumph. Note that not everyone will blow your horn, so be prepared to do that yourself. There are going to be people who will try and discourage you and distract you, you can’t listen to them, you simply need to use those people as motivation. And finally, always remember why you started. If ever you feel like giving up remind yourself what got you started in the first place.
About this look:
I wanted to share a part of my everyday style with you. This is typically something I would wear on the weekends or to work. I bought this grey cardigan from my new favourite “basics” store; Refinery (They have replaced all the JayJays) I felt this was the perfect autumn transitional piece to buy as we enter into the colder months ahead. You could dress this look up or down, as I have. Tegan and I shot this look outside The High Court in Cape Town, and now writing this piece the location fits perfectly. I love the soft tones, and easy going feel. However, I did let loose my inner Sasha Fierce with my strides up and down the sidewalk.
Long length cardigan – Refinery
White blouse & leggings – Cotton On
Sneakers – Stan Smiths, Adidas From Superbalist
Photography by Tegan Smith Photography